Getting sermons to play AND be downloadable

Now i get now audio at all where as before i could go full screen using JW player and then i could see it but now i'm not getting anything at all.

The player that is showing at the moment is the PixelOut one, this one only supports mp3 files. So no videos. You need to use the JWPlayer (default) one.
Also make sure that you enabled all info you want in the "columns" tab of the SermonSpeaker settings. It looks to me like only the minimum is shown, which doesn't include the player.

Ok last question is this I noticed on the tutorial it showed the player on top and the list on the bottom. But when i put an item in the sermons list it shows in the player and in the sermons list how do i get the item off of the player list and only in the sermon's list so that when people go to my page that has the archive all they see is a black screen and the sermon is on the bottom.

If I understand you correct, you would like to hide the playlist in the player? This could be done manually by editing the /components/com_sermonspeaker/helpers/player.php.
Around line 135 it says:
If you delete those two lines, the playlist will no longer show.
More available options for the JW Player can be found here:
www.longtailvideo.com/support/jw-player-setup-wizard
and they are more or less all set in this file.

Of course if you upgrade SermonSpeaker you will have to edit those lines out again.

deleted out those lines and now i get flashplayer needs java script turned on.

Then you either deleted to much, to little or the wrong lines.
You need to delete the whole lines. No linebreaks or anything left.
The code now has a '.' in the javascript, which means you either have a dot to much somewhere or you deleted or added a ' somewhere.